Andrew's Bar Mitzvah_09-13-14 (78)Bar and Bat Mitzvah

The bar or bat mitzvah is a wonderful moment in the life of a Jewish teen and his or her family.  At Beth Miriam, each service is individually created for the child and the rabbi works closely with the family to create something special. There are spots for including members of your family or friends to participate in the service, opportunities for sharing reflections and thoughts during the hours of worship and connecting with the congregation, your family and God in a way that will be with you forever.

Each child is lovingly prepared by well-trained and experienced b'nai mitzvah teachers and each child does what he or she is capable of doing. It is a wonderful learning experience and bonding experience and one that your child will always remember.

In order to have a bar or bat mitzvah at Beth Miriam (both are at age 13 regardless of gender), you must be member in good standing of the temple, your child must have had at least 4 years of formal Jewish education and you must not be raising the child in any other religious tradition. These are firm policies of Beth Miriam.

If you have any questions about how the ceremony can be tailored to your family's needs or have questions about the training, please contact the rabbi at 732-222-3754.

Parents' Information for the Bar/Bat Mitzvah

Tutor Sheet Welcome to Your Child

Use of Temple Facilities Guidelines


Parents' Guide to the TBM Bar/Bat Mitzvah


Nisim b'chol Yom
Eilu D'varim, spoken

Chatzi Kaddish

Yotzeir, spoken



Avot V'Imahot

Adonai S'fatai Tiftach

Shabbat Candles, spoken


Shabbat Candles, sung

Torah before blessing

Tallit blessing

Blessing before the Haftarah

Blessing after the Haftarah

Aleinu, V'neemar

Yismechu, Maseng

Barechu, Aronson

Yihu L'Ratzon


Shalom Rav

Candle Blessing

Kaddish d'Rabbanan

Introduction to Amida


Weekday Gevurot


Weekday Kedusha